Dear SuperSib, Fourteen years ago my little sister was diagnosed with T-cell Non Hodgkin’s Lymphoma at the age of five. She was ill for ten years, which is more than half of both of our entire lives. I am writing from experience and the understanding that childhood cancer touches all members of the family, with especially long-lasting effects on siblings. When my sister was sick, I was a very young child and failed to realize all the things that could help me cope. I do know that talking to someone about the cancer will help. Perhaps, it’s best to discuss your feelings with an outsider. I came in contact with a lot of negative feelings or ones I was embarrassed by and held them inside. This did not help. I suggest talking to someone who can provide age-appropriate and correct information without being overly frightening. Although it is essential to realize the severity in cancer, it is equally important to be aware that the doctors are doing everything possible to help your sibling recover. If you have other siblings or know someone else in your situation, encourage them to share their feelings with you. You will be surprised how many siblings suffer from the same normal feelings. And yes, this includes negative ones too. Let your parents talk to you, because they are suffering as well. Shutting them out could contribute to feeling lonely also. I found keeping a journal helpful, because during tough times you can look back to happy memories for reassurance. Keep in touch with your sibling as much as you can by spending time together. You will be surprised on how much you earn and change from the experience. Although the situation is extremely unfortunate, it can build closer relationships within your family. All of this is sure to strengthen you! Remain hopeful, |